tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8126032.post110714410518808275..comments2023-04-05T01:35:25.303-07:00Comments on Fetal Positions III: deconstructing identityKittyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213518393810493720noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8126032.post-1107355254270933252005-02-02T06:40:00.000-08:002005-02-02T06:40:00.000-08:00Hey, I just noticed that these posts are from you ...Hey, I just noticed that these posts are from you list of the Blog Graveyard-- congrats on dragging them out and whipping them into shape!!<br /><br />I think that identity is always a struggle for those of us who, at some point, had to start our definition with "different." In the face of mass-culture and mass-media, it is hard to give even a little-- "ok, in this one *tiny* way I am 'same'," and not feel that you need to defend all of the rest as STILL different.<br /><br />And then, of course, amidst all of that difference, it would be nice to have someone really get it, too. Wonderful husbands are great, but insufficient, for that kind of understanding.<br /><br />I think the baby is that one *teensy* way in which you have to be *the same* as everyone else. This is something that ALL women can do, even the ones that we find nauseating (bummer, that). I think that you and the cross-dresser should hang out. You'd probably get along fabulously.<br /><br />BTW, I *do* check your comments after I post in them, but if you want to email me, that's always nice too.<br /><br />KatieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8126032.post-1107186830581178662005-01-31T07:53:00.000-08:002005-01-31T07:53:00.000-08:00All in all I think most people who ask questions a...All in all I think most people who ask questions are pretty dense. I married young(right out of high school), unpregnant, and very much in love. I had tons of people ask me if I WAS pregnant because I got married so young. And I still have no children, because either I choose not to or I am unable to. Now people ask me WHY I don't have children. I can't imagine what you're going through. You really didn't plan this child. But it doesn't mean that you won't love him or her just as much. I am still up in the air about having kids. Or having one kid. A part of me wants to be a mother and the other part wants to be free. At least as free as a married person can be. My mind changes on a daily basis. But it is very true that once you give birth you will take on a new role and a new identity. I've read that many mothers go through the same identity crisis. Not sure what they are. Are they a mother or a wife? A woman or a breastfeeding machine? I have no advice, I can only read what you post. And I hope most of all that when it's all said and done that you will find yourself content. Not only with your child but with being both a woman AND a mother AND yourself. Happy with whatever label you or the world puts on you.Mohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561606382080756103noreply@blogger.com